I have seen first hand the fall-out when we don’t get the support we need as mothers.
The story that no one meant to choose of scarcity, shame and blame gets handed down to each new generation.
I’m Jo, the founder of Mums4aChange and I’ve seen this in my life and in my work in a children’s home, schools, leaving-care projects, at ChildLine and with adults as a therapist and coach.
I’ve also seen the opportunity that motherhood gives us to transform.
Parenting our children is like facing a mirror, we are confronted with seeing ourself and the society we live in, warts and all. We are faced afresh with choices about the stories we want to live and pass on. Our own story is now interwoven with the stories our children and their grandchildren will create.
As Anne Stevenson writes in Poem for a Daughter, “When we belong to the world. We become what we are.”
This incredible inner shift felt out of kilter with how people were talking to me as a new mother. I felt lonely despite being surrounded by amazing women. We all seemed focused on DOING the best we could.
What it meant to BE a mother, the awe and terror of it was never named.
When I started coaching mothers, running groups and interviewing mothers for a book (that become this social enterprise) I heard such thoughtful, rich stories. I also witnessed the huge benefit mothers get from sharing their true stories and hearing ‘me too’.
At Mums4aChange we use coaching and creativity to share what really matters and get potent about what wants to shift. Because by taking the time to attend to ourselves and where our fault-lines are, we are less likely to create the same cracks for our children to fall into.